{"id":4663,"date":"2021-03-23T07:53:42","date_gmt":"2021-03-23T13:53:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.theclarion.org\/?p=4663"},"modified":"2021-03-23T07:53:42","modified_gmt":"2021-03-23T13:53:42","slug":"love-shouldnt-hurt-ever-8","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/test.theclarion.org\/?p=4663","title":{"rendered":"Love shouldn\u2019t hurt – ever"},"content":{"rendered":"

Teen Dating Violence<\/strong>
\nby Teresia Smith<\/em><\/p>\n

When we talk about sexual assault, abusive relationships, and sexual harassment, we tend to think those things only happen to adults. Unfortunately, that is wrong. Our teens experience such acts of violence too, and in larger numbers than most are aware. With summer coming soon and our teens hanging out more with less supervision, it\u2019s a good time to take a look at teen dating violence.
\nMany teens do not grasp the destructive effects of violent behavior on their lives and just assume its normal in every dating relationship. At this period in their life, your teen is forming relationships that set the stage for their future. As a parent, you want to be sure you do your part to help your child understand what a healthy relationship feels and looks like.
\nHere are some statistics about teen abuse, some red flags to look for, risk factors, and where to get help if it happens to you or to someone you know.<\/p>\n

\u201cTeen dating violence is defined as the physical, sexual, or psychological\/emotional violence within a dating relationship, as well as stalking. It can occur in person or electronically and may occur between a current or former dating partner.\u00a0 The statistics about teen dating violence reveal that it is all too common:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Nearly 1.5 million high school students nationwide experience physical abuse from a dating partner in a single year.\u00a0
\n\u2022 One in three adolescents in the U.S. is a victim of physical, sexual, emotional or verbal abuse from a dating partner, a figure that far exceeds rates of other types of youth violence.<\/p>\n

\u2022 One in 10 high school students has been purposefully hit, slapped or physically hurt by a boyfriend or girlfriend.\u00a0
\n\u2022 One quarter of high school girls have been victims of physical or sexual abuse.
\n\u2022 \u00a0Approximately 70% of college students say they have been sexually coerced\u201d (http:\/\/www.blackburncenter.org\/teen-issues)<\/p>\n

\u00a0Teens are still developing emotionally and their dating relationships influence their development. While a healthy relationship can have a positive effect on a teen\u2019s emotional health, an unhealthy one, which includes abusive or violent relationships, can cause many damaging long-lasting effects. Victims of teen dating violence are more likely to have lower grades, be involved in alcohol consumption, attempt suicide, and engage in fighting. Victims of teen dating violence tend to carry this pattern of violence into their future relationships, as well as teens who stay in violent relationships tend to be at a higher risk for substance abuse, eating disorders, promiscuity, as well as being at a higher risk of domestic violence as an adult.
\n\u201cThere are some risk factors that make one more vulnerable to dating violence. Risks of having unhealthy relationships increase for teens who:
\n\u00a0 \u00a0 \u2022\u00a0Believe it is okay to use threats or violence to get their way or to express frustration or anger.
\n\u00a0 \u00a0 \u2022\u00a0Use alcohol or drugs.
\n\u00a0 \u00a0 \u2022\u00a0Hang out with violent peers.
\n\u00a0 \u00a0 \u2022\u00a0Have multiple sexual partners.
\n\u00a0 \u00a0 \u2022\u00a0Have a friend involved in dating violence.
\n\u00a0 \u00a0 \u2022\u00a0Are depressed or anxious.
\n\u00a0 \u00a0 \u2022\u00a0Have learning difficulties and other problems at school.
\n\u00a0 \u00a0 \u2022\u00a0Don\u2019t have parental supervision and support.
\n\u00a0 \u00a0 \u2022\u00a0Witness violence at home or in the community.
\n\u00a0 \u00a0 \u2022\u00a0Have a history of aggressive behavior or bullying\u201d (http:\/\/www.blackburncenter.org\/teen-issues).
\nDating violence can be reduced when teens, families, organizations, and communities work together to apply effective prevention strategies. We need to teach effective communication, how to manage uncomfortable emotions like anger, jealousy, and rejection, what are the hallmarks of a healthy relationship, and we need to teach our teens how to treat others with respect. Our adult relationships are examples to our teens of what is acceptable so it is important that we must make sure to be a good example by modeling our own healthy relationships.<\/p>\n

Crisis Services of North Alabama offers free and confidential services to victims of sexual assault or domestic violence. If you feel you may be involved in a violent relationship, help is available. Call Crisis Services 24\/7 HELPline at 256.716.1000 or our Jackson County Office at 256.574.5826 to speak with an advocate.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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